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Self-Love Series (Part 4 of 4): Speak Life

March 20, 2016 0 Comments

The words we use to describe our life, ourselves, those who surround us, world events, and more, shape our experiences with them. Growing up in church, I regularly heard the quote from Proverbs 18:21, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue.” It wouldn’t be until many years later that I realized the power of that simple statement.

Throughout most of my life, I gave no thought to the words I used. I, carelessly, used my words to judge others, judge myself, complain about things happening in the world, worry about the future, and more.

I mean, everyone else was doing it, so it must be normal, right?

This was the unconscious tape running in the background. And it was true, everyone else around me, at the time, was doing just that. So, I never even fathomed that life could be lived any other way.

The result of this judgment and complaining was irritability, frustration, unhappiness, hopelessness, cynicism, sadness, anxiety, and more. It was killing me softly.

Can life be lived another way? Is it possible to avoid complaining about circumstances and judging others? Absolutely!

I know because, not long after I began to speak life into my day, I noticed a positive shift in my mood, the way I responded to day-to-day challenges, and the way I felt about myself and others.image1

Displaying image1.PNGDisplaying image1.PNGWhen I began affirming I see the Light in all that surrounds me before starting my day, then that’s what I began to look for. I was no longer focusing on what was going wrong throughout the day, but looking for the good. I felt the shift, instantaneously.

When I started saying I practice compassion and forgiveness when hearing about harmful acts committed by anotherI stopped feeling drained after watching the news. Instead of spending time complaining about or judging what was happening, I started to use them as opportunities to practice loving unconditionally.

When I lifted myself up by stating I am worthyopportunities to speak or share my gifts popped up, with little effort on my part. I began to attract that which was aligned with my Divine blueprint verses my limiting thoughts about what I was/was not worthy of. Powerful shift!

These affirmations were giving me LIFE!

To bring it back to the theme of this series, I believe one of the most loving things we can do for ourselves is to be conscious of the words we use on a daily basis. I mean super conscious. So conscious that we pause before responding to others (in written or spoken word), allowing ourselves to take a deep breath and receive Guidance on what would be the most loving or useful thing to say in that moment.

“And in all situations, no matter what another is doing, your first response will be to enter the quiet stillness within, and merely ask the Holy Spirit, What would you have me say? What is most appropriate for this other soul in this moment?”

~Excerpt from The Way of the Heart, Lesson 3

Imagine what the world would be like if we all practiced this on a daily basis? Pause, and really take in that image that came to mind. Take a deep breath, anchoring in that vision. We have the power to create that world. And it begins with the words we speak.

Today is the first day of Spring here in the Northern Hemisphere, a time in which we see the fruits of what has been planted. A beautiful time to speak life into all that surrounds us, and marvel at all that blooms in our lives, and the world, because of it.

I’d love to hear from you! What area of your life would you like to “speak life” into more consistently? Work? Family? Relationships? Finances?What’s an affirmation you’ll now use to create the experience you desire? Please share in the comments below. 

Happy Spring! May this season be a fruitful one for you and yours!

Keep shining!

Peace & Infinite Blessings,


Kandace Jones
TWITTER: @coachkandace
INSTAGRAM: @iamlivinginthelight

About the Author:

I used to live life shackled by fear, doubt, and worry. I put on a happy face while navigating my day-to-day duties, but I was emotionally drained, stressed, and unhappy. When I hit rock bottom, and was diagnosed with depression and anxiety, I was determined to live life differently. I knew there had to be another way. Out of that determination, and guidance from Spirit, the "Living in the Light" blog was born. It documents my spiritual journey out of the darkness and into the Light. After nine months of publicly sharing my journey, and consciously releasing my attachment to the ego, I experienced a powerful spiritual awakening. I went from living in fear, doubt, worry, and stress to complete inner peace. My greatest passion has become assisting others on their own journey to inner peace. My spiritual memoir, From Stress to Peace: An Intimate Journal on the Journey from Living in Darkness to Living in the Light, is available now on Amazon and Click the tabs at the top of the page to learn more about the From Stress to Peace 21-Day Challenge, Living in the Light Retreats, 1:1 sessions, and the Living in the Light Community - all of which are designed to support your journey to inner peace. I appreciate you taking the time to visit the blog and look forward to supporting you in any way I can!